At this time of year, as the sun rises higher in the sky and the days get longer, you start to notice the dust on all the flat surfaces in your home and the film that’s built up on the windows and mirrors. Suddenly it feels like a good idea to get out the dusters and the polish to give the house back its sparkle.
It’s also a good time to get the sparkle back into your life. Lots of magazines have articles about cleaning-out and refreshing your body after the winter months but how about your emotions? Are you storing up feelings and emotions that aren’t serving you well?
One of the things that can clog up our emotions is holding on to anger and
resentment. In time it can make us physically ill. A heart researcher, Doc Childre, says:
“For your own health and wellbeing, forgiveness is simply the most energy-efficient option. It frees you from the incredibly toxic, debilitating drain of holding a grudge. Don’t let these people live rent-free in your head. If they hurt you before, why let them keep doing it year after year in your mind?’
So, how do you let go of those hurts and resentments and start to sparkle again? Try this exercise form “Feel Happy Now!” by Mark Neill
1 Make a list of resentments or grudges you are carrying around against other people or life in general. Notice whether you would be willing to let go of (forgive) each of these in turn.
For any to which the answer is ‘no’, ask yourself if you are hanging on a) because it would mean something bad about you if you didn’t; b) to make sure that ‘it’ doesn’t happen again; or c) both the above.
Remember, you are under no obligation to forgive – it’s simply a choice that only you can make and only for your own wellbeing.
2 Some time before you go to sleep this evening, make a mental or physical list of anything you are beating yourself up about.
Take each one through the three steps of forgiveness:
a. Let go of trying to figure it out.
b. Let go of disapproving of yourself for it
c. Give yourself approval – no conditions, no judgements and no expectations
When you start doing this exercise the list may be daunting but if you do it regularly it can bring real peace into your life and release your energy so that you can spring forward.